Balls

I find few things fascinating about my own species - guys . I noticed that we can really do anything just to prove to our other male counterparts that we have bigger balls than the rest . Well, it can be about some stupid things like who drives the fastest on the road is The Man or sumthing ...

Whoever can drive a Manual car is more manly than the rest ??

Whoever can drink a large bottle of soft drink at one go is a man ??

Whoever knows how to counter every single diss and make everyone look 'small' is a man ??

Whoever drives back to their hometown is more manly than those who go back by flight or train or bus ?

and the list goes on ..

Why? hehe I mean they always come up with classic lines like "Wei, if you got balls I'd say you do this ..and that ..etc.. "

I mean generally we all have them , why does it matter ? hehe

I know after so long , the best thing I can blog about are about balls :P

Do we guys have to justify to the world that we actually have balls ? I dunno man, don't be stupid . Just don't get caught up in this whole ego contest man , you'll never win hehe ..

I have this colleague who digs motorcycles , he calls me a wimp for not having an interest in bikes and questions why I don't get myself a bike and follow him on weekly convoys around town like him .. coz you're a real man if you know about bikes ..

I was shocked ! GeeZ .. I didn't know that man . Maybe coz I don't need one ? Maybe I'd rather invest on something that my Dad approves of , that won't get me wet during rains or hurt on the road ? like , let's see .. a CAR?!!

Tsk tsk .. Can I be an individual for God's sake ? Do not follow that path if you're not feeling it . Jangan ikut je. All I know is that , my balls are intact and I don't need to prove to people that they actually exist by resorting to such childish acts and I think we should stop boasting who has the bigger balls . Coz at the end of the day , they're just male reproductive organs and.. well .. balls :P

A letter to God

Dear God ,

It's me again . Yes, your not-so-good creation . Got a few things I wanna say and clarify with You. What was going through You when you created me ? Do You have a certain life plan for me ? I'm curious because , after a stable start , I feel lost at the moment .

Am I destined for great things ? A lot of responsibilities and reliance seem to be placed upon me . I'm being pulled from all sides . To be honest , I don't even know who I am or what have I become right now . There are times I get heaps of praise , there are times I get hurt and hated . Even the most precious things I hold and trust dearly , are beginning to hate me . Again, I feel like I'm a superhero . I can try my best to save everyone but me . However , not many realised that . This is not a letter of sympathy , just Your Forgiveness and Understanding .

I have dreams God. I have visions and ideals of what and how I want my life to be in the future . I'd like to take this opportunity to thank You for fulfilling half of that til today . I have one of the most precious gift from You right now . Trying my best to take good care of it .

Like many other of your creations , I do have feelings and wants . Most importantly , I'm a person . When things turn bad or sour , I don't just simply press the panic button and reset everything back to square one . You look carefully and analyse what is the root cause of it turning bad or sour . You ask yourself whether was it necessary in the first place . It could just be a simple error . Is it worth it? hurting each other and people around you in process ? could you have done better or have you done your best to solve it ?

I need Your guidance . I'm only 23 , but I'm entrusted to take care of family members who are way older than me . I'm required to grow up faster than the rest .

If I could , I would use every ounce of what I have left to make everyone happy at the expense of mine . I don't care if I don't buy the latest gadgets , wear the latest clothes or go to exotic places . For me , the satisfaction comes when you see how happy they are when you make them happy . Those good times , the bad times . I'm still doing my best to please everyone . Though I might not get the acknowledgement or proof of my existense in their lives . To some , I feel like I'm dispensable , coz the people around them don't know I even existed in the first place . I'm just a secret .

Despite my efforts , theres still those who get hurt along the way . I need You to guide me and help me go through this .

Why am I working in the first place , if I ended up hurting everyone around me ?

Will it change things for the better if I was jobless and still rely on other people for money ?

my health is getting affected .

Will it change things if I was more available to everyone ?

will that make me a better son , bf or friend ?

will I be better for You ?

Despite trying hard to be the best for everyone , I still get questioned over my commitments , loyalties and intentions . I get branded as irresponsible instead . I have 4 most important people I'd die for : You , my family , my girlfriend and my friends . They are all that matters to me . I feel shitty when I don't entertain my nephew/niece that much nowadays , seeing them getting more distant from me , when I'm always back home , tired . I get hurt when my girlfriend is hurt and the worst feeling is that you're not always there to comfort her when she really needs it or maybe commit a mistake by forgetting some finer details she has told you in conversations . I grew up and spent half of my life with friends and when I always had to cancel meetings or a simple minum-minum at the mamak , I feel bad .

God, why am I here ? What am I here for ? Does the world really need someone like me ?

I wonder how things are if I didn't exist in the first place . Would it lessen the pain I've caused to everyone? would it make their lives easier ?

Could you make me a little bit more selfish ?

I'm tired . I'm lost . I'm weak . I'm hollow.

Watching the movie 'Click' really opened my eyes . It's never too late to tell that person sorry or fix your relationship with them .

Before I end this letter , there is one thing I'd do when the time comes for me . In my last breath , I would like to gather my 4 most important people in one place , put my hands up and say

"I'm sorry everyone , from the bottom of my heart , I wish I could have more time for you all , I hope I've been good enough ..."

and leave this world in peace , knowing at the back of my mind that I did the best way I can .

P/s- Thank You for entertaining this letter . I know You are busy other people with much bigger problems than mine . I just don't know who to turn to . I'm sorry .

Kota Bharu & Women's Dressing Issues

I read the papers recently about how women should dress in Kelantan . In the paper listed down the rules like :

For Muslims
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- dressing which covers down to ankles
- Head dress ( tudung ) must cover forehead and hair

For Non-Muslims
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- decent outfits which do not expose the navel , shows a lot of cleavage and emphasise the buttocks

They MUST NOT wear :

- body hugging outfits which show off the body
- blouses which show the navel
- see-through blouses
- mini-skirts
- tight pants

Reason ? To protect them from getting harrassed or raped by so-called highly sexual Kelantan males .

Look , I see this like as an insult and a slap on the face to the male population in Kelantan . Are they really so sensitive towards women that the minute they see their freaking ankles or legs theyre gonna pounce on them ?

In my opinion , the more you try to enforce such rules , the more rapists you'll produce . I think how women dress is not the main factor when someone commits a rape . I think it just goes down to the mental health of the rapist himself really . If he feels like raping , anything goes you know . Clothes are not the factor .

I think you're gonna make them more sensitive and easily aroused by doing that . We you make it scarce and hard to find , the more you crave for it . Like chocolates you know , today youre craving for that refrigerated Kinder Buenos or Dark Chocolate , but if you get it everyday , it becomes a norm and you couldn't give a damn anymore to even look at it . Make sense ?

Well , let's see if the number of rape cases improve in Kelantan once those rules are enforced .

The Six

[God] [Work] [Family] [Significant Other] [Companions] [Me]

Imagine those 6 are torches that only lits up temporarily when you touch them and shuts off after a while . But it's not easy to light up every single one at once , because they are located in different areas and time. You must lit up all 6 in order to live a complete and fulfilling life, failing to lit one of it will make your life miserable . How do you organise your time , essence , spirit , mind , body and soul to lit each torch without the risk of shutting down one of it ?

Please share . Help me .

Multiple Man

I have one more theory before I go to sleep, yeah I came back from a Night Shift. In regards to the debate about females not knowing what they want , I just wanna share my thoughts on women .

I think women don't need doctors , businessmen etc as their partners . They need an actor .

Why ?

Well we sometimes hear things like :

1) "I want a bad boy hottie that I can tame" when she's all hot and sorry to say , horny .

But when that bad boy leaves her and starts being a jerk , thay would say

2) "Where can I find a nice, decent guy who listens to me and respects me for who I am and not how I look?"

But when they actually found the nice guy , but when things get boring , they would say

3) "I wish theres someone out there who can take charge of me and take me away and put me in place whenever I'm wrong .."

Well , they go back to the bad boys la basically hehe :P .

Idiotically speaking , women need 2 guys or more . When one is wrong , the other one is right at that time . So as a solution hehe , go find a good actor that can be both . When you feel your woman is feeling cranky , you switch personas . Coz theres no such thing as one type of guy for most women .

I'm sensing comments coming along soon hehe . . .

But hey , just my point of view ... and I am far from being angry or anything . I suddenly have this urge to write things that suddenly pops on this little mind , that's all .

Ok , now I think I should shut up and go to bed now .

'MNG'

Also known as Mr. Nice Guy. Yes beware of MNG . We always think beware of the bad guys, but sometimes we neglect ones that work their magic under the radar to avoid detection. MNG can come in various forms. They can come in a form of a considerate friend, partner's best friend,childhood friend or simply a nice stranger you just knew.

You see, MNGs , prey on women who are at an emotionally vulnerable state. Their magic works best especially when their target is emotionally unstable, like maybe she just had a rough time at work ,Bf,family etc.. What they'll do is that, they will slowly get close to the target , to act like a comforter or emotional anchor/listener of some sort. They will start to listen, to her problems,consoling her,giving Dr. Phil-inspired advices and basically be her outlet to let out her frustrations .

MNGs would be one of the first ones generous enough to give praises and words of encouragement . They will try to be the first ones to wish her Happy Birthday , remembering the little things about her so that she'll say "Awww, that's so sweet of you..." . That's mission accomplished to them .

And finally, this is when their grand masterplan will come in full circle . They will start to suggest that the girl leaves her BF for instance . They'll be like "Hey , as a friend , I just want what's best for you, for your own good , leave him ". In a few weeks , months or even days after that happens , expect your girl to be with MNG :)

Single ones take note . Attached ones beware ;) . Keep your eyes open ...

Btw, this is just a theory of mine . I just had to get it out of my system , haven't been blogging that seriously lately .

I'm gonna stop apologizing if this post offends anyone coz at the end of the day they are just thoughts , so if we are open and mature enough to respect that then May Allah Bless You :)

MR PERFECT

Have you ever came across a guy who is full of himself ? I did and still friends with him at present . Well it's nothing serious, but don't you wish sometimes you could shrink that person's ego a little bit ?

I mean this guy thinks he has the answers for everything , knows everything in life and seems pretty convinced that he's all that . Well its good to have confidence in abundance , but too much of it could border along the lines of arrogance and cockiness . I'm not pissed at this person , but kinda annoyed coz he doesn't seem to change his style . He invents his personality in such a way that there is small room for his flaws to be evident on the surface , so that people don't talk him down . But he, on the other hand , likes to be in control ALL the time . He sizes everyone up so well that to him , everyone is just an itty-bitty atom while he is this HUGE mountain !

By doing that , he can talk people down , influence the weak-minded ones and control his peers . I see him do this a lot of time and he's pretty good at it . I'm just curious la , is it SO important to be like that ALL the time ? can't you respect people for what they do and who they are and just compromise once in a while ?

Why must it always be YOU having the upper hand ? the psychological advantage ? People like these just don't like losing . It's so important for them that people think of them highly all the time ?

I do not doubt the notion that men in general needs to have some ego in them , but sometimes it could hurt the people you hold dear to you .

My advice to that person is : Chill. Let go of things once in a while . Give in . Compromise . Most importantly , IT DOESN'T HURT AT ALL :)

I'm writing this because I have been his victim a few times and I think I should represent those who have also been treated the same way and tell this story . I do not wish to tell what he did or said to me here , coz its not important . I just hope he would 'tone' down one day . I mean, he's a nice guy and all . You know what they say , we all have our dark sides ..

If you feel offended by reading this , means you do have that ego in you . If you don't , then you might just be one of the victims :) ..