The Institution
I had a conversation with my Mom recently and we talked about marriage. Wait , hold on there .. don't get too excited yet , I'm not getting married anytime soon .. but I will definitely ;)
The more I hear it from people on the 'other' side of the fence and through reading what other moms and dads blog about their marriage , the more I feel how much of a big deal it is. It is easy to say 'Let's get married' and expect things to smooth out. All I have to say is, I think it takes a huge amount of effort from both sides to make it work.
How one should behave , the tolerance of each other's habits , personal sacrifices and trust are all important things to consider. I think you gotta be really sure and know what you want out of your relationship before you step into marriage. Yes , some say love conquers all , while some would say love is not enough to make you last through marriage. I think its true you know, let's be realistic , monetary stability is important to live a comfortable life. If you're both in love but broke, its not gonna be a comfortable one. I'm surprised and respect that my parents are still together for 39years in their marriage , another 1 more year and it would mark a 40year milestone. I mean there was constant quarrels , laughters , displays of patience and turmoil. We had our dry periods , rough times and better moments .
I was inspired , it inspired me to be better. Most important thing for being a guy is to be responsible , protective and solid . I'm still learning and sometimes cannot escape from making mistakes from old habits. Women will always have their occasional cranky moods (or Queen B mode .. hehe) , you can't change that , we guys just have to work around it and cope. However, having said that , women also must tolerate mistakes . We guys will always make a lot of mistakes , we're guys. But of course, depends on the type of mistakes we make. If we forgot to buy something , didn't do certain things or said something stupid / trivial , theres no need to fire up all the cannons of rage and fire us hehe... patience. Compromise.
Well you won't know unless you're in it right ? who am I to say these things like some marriage guru right ? hehe
All I know is that I am working hard to make my relationship work . I'm done looking . I know who it is I want and who I should be. Just need to make more $$$ now hehe..
P/s: Btw, check out Yasmin Ahmad's blog . Read the post about her parents , very sweet story :)
I had a conversation with my Mom recently and we talked about marriage. Wait , hold on there .. don't get too excited yet , I'm not getting married anytime soon .. but I will definitely ;)
The more I hear it from people on the 'other' side of the fence and through reading what other moms and dads blog about their marriage , the more I feel how much of a big deal it is. It is easy to say 'Let's get married' and expect things to smooth out. All I have to say is, I think it takes a huge amount of effort from both sides to make it work.
How one should behave , the tolerance of each other's habits , personal sacrifices and trust are all important things to consider. I think you gotta be really sure and know what you want out of your relationship before you step into marriage. Yes , some say love conquers all , while some would say love is not enough to make you last through marriage. I think its true you know, let's be realistic , monetary stability is important to live a comfortable life. If you're both in love but broke, its not gonna be a comfortable one. I'm surprised and respect that my parents are still together for 39years in their marriage , another 1 more year and it would mark a 40year milestone. I mean there was constant quarrels , laughters , displays of patience and turmoil. We had our dry periods , rough times and better moments .
I was inspired , it inspired me to be better. Most important thing for being a guy is to be responsible , protective and solid . I'm still learning and sometimes cannot escape from making mistakes from old habits. Women will always have their occasional cranky moods (or Queen B mode .. hehe) , you can't change that , we guys just have to work around it and cope. However, having said that , women also must tolerate mistakes . We guys will always make a lot of mistakes , we're guys. But of course, depends on the type of mistakes we make. If we forgot to buy something , didn't do certain things or said something stupid / trivial , theres no need to fire up all the cannons of rage and fire us hehe... patience. Compromise.
Well you won't know unless you're in it right ? who am I to say these things like some marriage guru right ? hehe
All I know is that I am working hard to make my relationship work . I'm done looking . I know who it is I want and who I should be. Just need to make more $$$ now hehe..
P/s: Btw, check out Yasmin Ahmad's blog . Read the post about her parents , very sweet story :)
No comments:
Post a Comment