The Mind Lounge

All just a state of mind ?



I think this little blog and the things I write here are always about life in general don't you think so ? I hope it does not bore you all . Thank you for the kind responses that you've given me via comments , msn , email , sms etc.. I never realised my writings would carry such impact and relevance to others . I always try to write from a normal , everyday person's point of view and see things from these ordinary eyes ... quietly observing the world we live in .

Which brings me to this question I recently discovered : happiness , anger , mercy , greed , pride and sorrow , is it just a state of mind ? ... heterosexuality and homosexuality .. a state of mind ?

Why I ask this is because I've read somewhere that all these emotions we humans feel towards our surroundings are just a state of mind . Meaning that what we think on our minds dictate our reaction and behaviour towards a particular situation . Meaning that we can choose to be happy when times are bad if we want to . Is it that easy ? I think not .

Based on experience , I think we live in a world where we might not get the credit or recognition we rightly deserve for our efforts . Sometimes with little or no effort at all , you get rewarded greatly . Sometimes you've got to learn that it maybe takes at least a FEW 'message bottles' being thrown at the sea , before at least ONE of it comes back to you by the shores . Maybe you need to go through a number of rude taxi drivers before actually getting a nice polite one .

Sometimes you need to knock the door a couple of times more than usual , for it to open for you ...

I've realised that sometimes you can be the apple of whoever's eyes and sometimes you're just .. a piece of trash or a piece of dirt that can be swept away to the side ...

Sometimes you try to do what's right , only to be punished for it ...

The bad ones are remembered .. good ones are forgotten ...

I've seen kindness being treated with hostility and ice-cold responses ...

So what do you do ? you can tell yourself that its OK and you should keep being happy or you can choose to be a crybaby and waste those Scottex tissues . Its all based on your state of mind .

You can choose to just be happy like Charlie Chaplin :



Or

Choose to turn your negative issues into an inspiration like Tupac and carry on with life :



I do get a few people who asked me why this blog doesn't really tell much about my life personally , you know , what I'm going through and all .. Well let me just say that its a decision that I think would suit me . I don't think its necessary to tell the whole world what you do everyday , what you had for lunch ..yada yada . Plus , I think its not a guy thing to do you know . I don't think people would care . Let's just say it is tough being me and I don't intend to burden others on problems I encounter personally because that would just be plain selfish and self-centered on my part .

Back to the topic , do you believe that your mind has the power to change how you feel ?

Maybe we all should give it a try . We can sulk or whine all we want about why the world is not fair and everyone hates us , or , we can mentally choose to be happy and say "Look, if it is going to be this way , then I just have to accept it and try to work around it coz thats just how it is ". Adapt . That's the key . Be real , face the reality . Be honest with what you feel .

Before I make Deepak Chopra or Anthony Robbins go bankrupt through my lame , 'syok-sendiri' speeches , let me just wrap it up and say

" Life is all about choices . You are what you think you are , not what others think of you " .